As the year winds down, I’ve been thinking about the long view—the kind of work and living that only makes sense after you’ve stayed with it for a while. This essay reflects on fourteen years of slow travel, belonging, and attention, and what I’m still learning about trusting the next step without quite seeing it yet.
Much of my work is spent traveling with people on vacation, and if there’s one thing I’ve noticed, it is that travelers love to talk— talk, talk, talk.
It’s natural, of course, this inclination to verbalize the wonder and awe of being somewhere foreign, experiencing exciting adventures, and meeting new and interesting people.
I wonder, though, how much potential joy, insight, and observation is lost amid the cacophony of the nonstop chatter.
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